Reality TV. Admit it–you watch it. And you’re not alone. It’s hard to avoid these days. There’s a reality show for everything.
I’ll admit that I occasionally watch some of the love-related shows. You know the ones: The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Dating in the Dark, and more recently, More To Love.
Now, many would argue that reality TV is like empty calories–no real value whatsoever and you shouldn’t waste your time on them. However, after watching the most recent episode of More To Love, I beg to differ.
Reality TV can show you what NOT to do. That’s right–watch reality TV shows to learn what NOT to do on a date.
A couple of examples:
- Saying the “L” word on the first date. Some of the ladies on More To Love only knew the bachelor, Luke, for 24 hours before they were saying things like “I’m falling in love with him,” “It was love at first sight,” blah blah blah. C’mon ladies. Don’t be that naive. And more importantly, don’t let him know you’re that naive.
- Trash talking other women. A big no-no. You will rarely succeed in making the other women look bad. You do, however, make yourself look extremely bad.
- Crying… a lot. We’re women. We can cry at the drop of a hat. But that doesn’t mean we should. I’m all for showing some emotion when it’s appropriate. But crying on a date? Tsk, tsk. Unfortunately, crying is still associated with weakness… and weakness is not sexy.
- Being too available. You want a guy to notice you. You want him to know that you’re into him. But that doesn’t mean you have to hang on his every word. You don’t have to be his shadow. It just makes you look desperate.
- Showing your insecurity. We’re all insecure. Every last one of us. One of the greatest skills you could ever learn is how to hide that insecurity. Learn to fake self-confidence. Confidence, in case you didn’t know, is super sexy.
- Putting a guy on a pedestal. Why is it that some women have the tendency to elevate an average guy to god-like status just because he’s available and interested in you? Especially a guy that you hardly know? Chances are, beneath his suave exterior, he’s got flaws. Don’t be the desperate girl that ignores all flaws in a guy just so she won’t end up alone.
- Do not, like, use the word “like,” like, a lot, ok? We all use the word “like” during conversation. But when it becomes every fifth word out of your mouth, you look like an idiot, plain and simple.
For more tips on what NOT to do on a date, tune in to any channel during any weeknight and watch any of the season’s latest dating shows.
